Sister Wivesstar Kody Brown seems to think he’s hard done by amid an increasingly heated battle over Coyote Pass land, but to me, it seems like he was the one who engineered the family’s downfall. I don’t think he waswrong to choose Robyn Brownbecause he loves her,and love is never wrong. The issue is that he might have dragged out his spiritual unions for far too long.

By trying to make things work with Meri, Janelle and Christine Brown, whom he doesn’t love in a romantic way, he set the stage for so much drama and bitterness. It would have been better for everyone if they all cut their losses years before they did.

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Kody’s well-being matters, just like the well-being of Robyn and his exes do. Kody is a human being. Sometimes, he’s reduced to the equivalent of a silent film villain, but he never tied a damsel in distress to the railroad tracks. All he did was try to keep a plural marriage alive when it needed to end.

Kody May Be Misunderstood

His Role In The Plural Marriage Was Complicated

Kody had his own reasons for doing that, and not all of those reasons were self-serving. Maybe he thought it was the honorable thing to do.He was raised to believe that those women were his responsibility - that’s so much pressure.The truth is thatKody’s exes are grown women- independent beings who can stand on their own two feet.

In relationships,when a person stops listening to their heart, things often go awry. In real love, there’s a purity - an honesty, a willingness to forgive… a transcendence. With Robyn, Kody feels that kind of love. What he gave to the others was not the same - it was a facsimile of what they wanted and needed.

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They watched a woman get the kind of love they yearned for. Their hearts were broken over and over again.

So, of course, no one was happy. It’s sad for everyone - for Kody too. He probably never meant to hurt anyone. He has to carry all of that guilt and pain. While polygamy can work, in this case, it was a dynamic that left people confused, upset and out of sorts.

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Kody is madly in love with Robynand the other women could feel it - his passion for the dainty brunette wasn’t something he could ever hide. So, it would have been better to just let go. By setting himself free, he could give Meri, Janelle and Christine their freedom too.

Sure, it would hurt for a while. Breakups are painful. However, when a person recovers from a breakup, rather than being mired in a terrible relationship, it’s like the sun’s coming out. Look at what happened to Christine when she accepted that her spiritual union with Kody could never make her happy. It’s like it opened a portal to paradise. Before she knew it,Christine had a new man, and she didn’t need to share him. She was on top of the world.

Kody Has To Heal

Everyone Needs Peace

In pain there can be possibilities. That’s why, in certain cases, “cauterizing and healing” is beneficial. Janelle and Meri are rebuilding too, and they’ve valiantly moved forward, proving that they do just fine on their own. Everyone is moving forward in their own way, and there’s justno need for Kody to play the victimanymore. Above,Kody wears a David Yurman signet ring- Robyn has a matching ring. He had made up his mind - Kody knows who he wants. He should put the past behind him and really enjoy his love.

I thinkKody should sell Coyote Passand share the money with the exes who still have stakes in the property. He should tie up these loose ends, so everyone can really be free. That’s the most compassionate thing he can do for himself and for them.

When hekeeps these high-drama situations rolling, he’s doomed to feel guilt and anxiety. He can’t really let go when he’s tangling with exes over a cursed patch of land that was supposed to be the family’s Utopia.All of that just keeps the memories flooding back. What people need is space to recover, to regroup, and to find themselves.

That’s why a clean break can be cleansing.

It’s just some time out - to think, to process, to forgive. That kind of emotional space can be a safe space. It can be something important that leads to breakthroughs.

Kody’s not wrong to love Robyn. She is the most compatible with him. Robyn seems to understand him. We all gravitate towards people who make us feel understood. To “be known” as we really are, and loved for that, is a kind of liberation - it’s beautiful. If Kody has that with Robyn, and he seems to, then being with her is definitely the right thing to do.

Robyn brings out the best in the man - she evokes his softer side… his gentlemanly spirit. That’s how it should be. With the other women,he could not be the chivalrous man that he is for Robyn. So,Kody’s decision to live in monogamy with Robynis a good one, and I hope they can stay together forever. I can see the love on his face - he loves her deeply. Of that, I’m one hundred percent certain.

Kody Can Open His Heart

The Petty Drama Is Out Of Date

What would help is Kody helping his exes. What do they need and what would make this tough transitional phase easier for them? If he sets aside his bitterness and mistrust, acknowledging the fact that he played a role in how it all played out, his life could be easier. Also,his exes might begin to forgive him for all the slights - the dull ache of watching the favorite wife receive love while they got so much less. People could really adjust.

In kindness, Kody can move beyond the tortured dynamic that makes him play the victim. He could sell the land quickly to give the exes closure. He could attempt to walk a mile in their shoes. He could accept the fact that it was easier for Robyn than the other women - he could try to understand where the exes are coming from, rather than being so laser-focused on how he is perceived.

Peace is always possible and it’s about consideration. It’s about manners.When Kody is a gentleman to his exes, he’ll win. To give them respect is the right way to go. It’s essential to recognize that relationships are delicate things - to heal a relationship marked by so much turmoil requires a high degree of finesse.

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Kody is capable of gentlemanly conduct - he is a gentleman for Robyn. All he needs to do is dig deep and give his exes that kind of treatment. They aren’t his partners anymore, but he can treat them like equals. When he does, he may find that he releases so much pain.

While things may never be great with his exes, politeness and empathy will take him far, and maybe change everything. I believe thatSister Wives' Kody Browncan make things better. Positive energy is the key to unlocking a future where every Brown woman can be her best self, and Kody can be happy too.